I found that once I decided to transition from relaxed to natural hair I had more questions than answers. What will my hair look like? Will my hair be curly or kinky? What will people think? Are they going to treat me differently? Recently I was able to answer these questions.
Let me first start out by saying, like many African-American families, my family background is infused with different cultures. Especially on my mother’s side. On her side; her great grand parents on her father side were Native American, Caucasian and African-American. Her mother could have passed for a Jewish woman and my mother was born with hair texture similar to mine. My hair is curly in texture, fine in width and dense(meaning I have a lot of hair). I always wrestled with the fact that my hair texture was different from my family. But I grew out of the complaining I just decided one day if I was meant to have hair like them I would have. I can’t do anything about it so I moved on.
Fast forward to now; I had to start really accepting my hair for what it was. I couldn’t hide my natural texture with a relaxer or braids. I had to come to terms with the hair God gave me. I began to accept my hair for what it was which was another part of me. I’m not saying that accepting your hair texture is going to be easy. I had no idea what my hair texture was. Generally people don’t find out what their hair texture is until three inches. That’s around six months of hair growth. I told you in my last post that I was only going to transition for nine months. So I had to decide early on that no matter what texture my hair was, I was going to love it because it was part of me.
I guess what I am trying to say is that you have to learn how to accept and love yourself if you’re ever going to be successful on this hair journey because if you have not accepted your hair for what it is, I don’t care if everyone around you does nothing but complements you. You will never be happy with your hair!Which brings me to the last couple of questions; what will people think? and Are they going to treat me differently? and the answer is I don’t care. I am comfortable in my own skin and I know I am doing the right thing for me.
- My Natural Hair Journey… (donnienicole.com)