I have been on this hair journey (as we like to call it in the hair world) since 2008. This is when the big wave of information flowed in on the topic of how to care of African-American hair. I bought the products, read the hair forums, joined the hair social networks. I experienced some victories; I was able to grow my relaxed hair to almost APL (Arm Pit Length) but as soon as I almost reached that milestone my hair broke off (or the stylist cut it off).
So fast forward to 2011 and I was still experiencing the same thing. I would grow my hair to almost (I’m talking an inch or two away) APL and then I would have a set back. I know what your thinking… did you try this; did you try that? and the answer is I’ve tried it all. The last set back took the cake!
I decided to give my hair a rest and got my hair braided. The woman braided my hair and slipped knot each braid. I didn’t think anything of it because she braided my hair fairly down so I assumed that she knotted the braids past my actual hair. Boy was I wrong! For anyone who has taking out slip knots before knows that its faster to just cut the braid right above the knot than to individually untie the knots. To make a long story short I cut off a lot of my own hair…
I decided (well after crying) that what I have been doing to myself over the past three years is insane. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I am not saying that if you want long relaxed hair and you’ve had some set backs you should just give up. what I am saying is that for me it was time to try something new. I sat back and really thought to myself… what is your relaxed hair goal? What are you going to actually do to your hair once you meet that goal? and the answer is that I wanted BSL (Bra Strap Length) and after meeting that goal I was going to wear my hair in a ponytail because I’m a low maintenance kinda chick. If I can’t get myself together within 20 minutes than it’s not going to happen.
So I decided that the best thing for me to do was grow my hair out and wear it natural. I thought to myself what’s the worst thing that can happen? I don’t like it? Well I can go to the hair store and purchase a relaxer and that will be the end of that. I decided that I was going to grow my hair out for nine months because in a sense this is a rebirth. And my birthday coincidentally landed on that ninth month.
So a week from today I will cut off the remaining relaxed hair and I will embark on a new journey. I hope that you will join me.
- * Topic: Natural Hair * (gutseylulu.wordpress.com)