Good Foundation

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Like anything in life you should have a good jumping off point;  Or should I say a good foundation. Whenever I find a new interest I tend to purchase a book. In the past couple of years I have become interested in photography. Before I purchased my DSLR camera or my Lenses I purchased a photography book. Photography is an expensive hobby so I needed to read up on the subject before I could commit to the hobby.

The same can be applied to healthy hair care. During the five years on this hair journey I have become a product junkie, I do not know how much money I have spent of hair products. But I got to the point that after throwing a lot of hair products out I still had enough products to last me four to six months. So when I started this natural journey my first instinct was to go out and buy products. So I started watching people on Youtube to see what type of products  I should purchase. Coincidentally around that same time everyone on Youtube and the social networks were reviewing this book called: “A Comprehensive Guide to Texture Hair Care The Science of Black Hair” By Audrey Davis-Sivasothy. (The book can be purchased at thought to myself if I am unwilling to commit to photography without a good understanding on the topic, then why would I just dive in head first into natural hair care?

So I decided to purchase The Science of Black Hair and I couldn’t have been happier. I’m not going to go into what I learn point by point but what I will say is that Davis-Sivasothy explains in five units: The Science of Black Hair; Healthy Hair Management; Working with Chemicals in a Healthy Hair Care Regimen; Children’s Hair Care; and The Hair-Total Body Connection. My favorite part of This book is that it provides a list of products that are recommended for our hair type. If you want to commit to your hair journey I recommend that you read this book.


On the Road to Self Love

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I found that once I decided to transition from relaxed to natural hair I had more questions than answers. What will my hair look like? Will my hair be curly or kinky? What will people think? Are they going to treat me differently? Recently I was able to answer these questions.

Let me first start out by saying, like many African-American families,  my family background is infused with different cultures. Especially on my mother’s side. On her side; her great grand parents on her father side were Native American, Caucasian and African-American. Her mother could have passed for a Jewish woman and my mother was born with hair texture similar to mine.  My hair is curly in texture, fine in width and dense(meaning I have a lot of hair). I always wrestled with the fact that my hair texture was different from my family. But I grew out of the complaining I just decided one day if I was meant to have hair like them I would have. I can’t do anything about it so I moved on.

Fast forward  to now; I had to start really accepting my hair for what it was. I couldn’t hide my natural texture with a relaxer or braids. I had to come to terms with the hair God gave me. I began to accept my hair for what it was which was another part of me. I’m not saying that accepting your hair texture is going to be easy. I had no idea what my hair texture was. Generally people don’t find out what their hair texture is until three inches. That’s around six months of hair growth. I told you in my last post that I was only going to transition for nine months. So I had to decide early on that no matter what texture my hair was, I was going to love it because it was part of me.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you have to learn how to accept and love yourself if you’re ever going to be successful on this hair journey because if you have not accepted your hair for what it is, I don’t care if everyone around you does nothing but complements you. You will never be happy with your hair!Which brings me to the last couple of questions; what will people think? and Are they going to treat me differently? and the answer is I don’t care. I am comfortable in my own skin and I know I am doing the right thing for me.

The Definition of Insanity

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I have been on this hair journey (as we like to call it in the hair world) since 2008. This is when the big wave of information flowed in on the topic of how to care of African-American hair. I bought the products, read the hair forums, joined the hair social networks. I experienced some victories; I was able to grow my relaxed hair to almost APL (Arm Pit Length) but as soon as I almost reached that milestone my hair broke off (or the stylist cut it off).

So fast forward to 2011 and I was still experiencing the same thing. I would grow my hair to almost (I’m talking an inch or two away) APL and then I would have a set back. I know what your thinking… did you try this; did you try that? and the answer is I’ve tried it all. The last set back took the cake!

I decided to give my hair a rest and got my hair braided. The woman braided my hair and slipped knot each braid. I didn’t think anything of it because she braided my hair fairly down so I assumed that she knotted the braids past my actual hair. Boy was I wrong! For anyone who has taking out slip knots before knows that its faster to just cut the braid right above the knot than to individually untie the knots. To make a long story short I cut off a lot of my own hair…

I decided (well after crying) that what I have been doing to myself over the past three years is insane. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I am not saying that if you want long relaxed hair and you’ve had some set backs you should just give up. what I am saying is that for me it was time to try something new. I sat back and really thought to myself… what is your relaxed hair goal? What are you going to actually do to your hair once you meet that goal? and the answer is that I wanted BSL (Bra Strap Length) and after meeting that goal I was going to wear my hair in a ponytail because I’m a low maintenance kinda chick. If I can’t get myself together within 20 minutes than it’s not going to happen.

So I decided that the best thing for me to do was grow my hair out and wear it natural. I thought to myself what’s the worst thing that can happen? I don’t like it? Well I can go to the hair store and purchase a relaxer and that will be the end of that. I decided that I was going to grow my hair out for nine months because in a sense this is a rebirth.  And my birthday coincidentally landed on that ninth month.

So a week from today I will cut off the remaining relaxed hair and I will embark on a new journey. I hope that you will join me.

Hello world!

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Hair & Now is a blog about my journey to healthy hair. Like most hair journeys, my hair has been through many changes. I was first introduced to a relaxer at the tender age of seven, than decided I didn’t like the upkeep of a relaxer so I wore braids for many years. I experimented with color and then decided to return to relaxed. Now I am embarking on a new journey and that is wearing my hair in its natural state. I decided to start a blog to express my views on what I have learned , will continue to learn and hopefully help someone along the way.